when to STFU ❤️

Let me preface by saying this: open relationships are not for the weak, or the monogamy dreamers.

If your idea of your perfect, dream relationship only involved you and your beloved, you had a monogamy dream. Of course your ideals can change growing up, but at 18, what were they really? Probably not open, yes?

I was in an open relationship before my current one. It wasn't always that way. It was a lot more loving (and monogamous) before it got to that point.

The only reason I feel the need to write and publish this is because someone wanted to weigh in and give their opinion on my previous post about how my boyfriend cheated on me in a dream. I have nothing to prove, but as a writer, so much to say!

For one, I love opinions. I have ‘em, you have ‘em, your mom has ‘em. (heh) Everyone is allowed to have one and speak on it if they must.

However, when you know absolutely nothing about something, maybe it’s best to keep your mouth closed. But on the off-chance you decide to open your mouth, make sure you know the facts.

I'm not going to express every little detail, out of respect for mine & those involved’s privacy. It was a whirlwind, an emotional trainwreck, and so deeply intense and heart-crushing. I wouldn't wish that kind of heartbreak on anyone.

So what does being in an “open-relationship” mean?

You and your partner have casual, unemotional sex outside the two of you, and remain in a committed relationship, OR you and your partner allow other people to enter your relationship through casual unemotional sex via threesomes, etc. The point is that it is completely unemotional, and usually revolves around casual sex.

Now, in contrast, if you're polyamorous, you and your partner are in a committed relationship, and allow each other to engage in other emotional or casual relationships and casual or emotional sex with other people.

Back to what I was referring to earlier. This person reposted my cover art for that particular post, and made a remark that's supposed to allude to some sort of infidelity that happened in my past relationship. Do they know about how my ex and I were open? Possibly, we were very vocal about it at the time. That's not the part I have an issue with. The part that confuses me is the confidence in their statement that they know for a fact that either myself or my ex were unfaithful.

I didn't even see the post myself. It was sent to me. I don't even follow this person. In fact, they are so negative online, I muted their profile all together. Out of politeness, I did follow them for some time, but when I realized this was a waste of my energy, I ended up muting, as they are mutuals with some people I know.

Fuck Politeness.

What truly happened in that relationship, the only two people in it will know. Do not speak on something you have no fucking clue about.

I will protect what was once a beautiful thing to the very end, shitty break up or not, it was extremely real, and I remember every inch of it.

Take this as you will, screenshot it and pick it apart, do what you must do to convince yourself you're doing something useful with your time. And while we’re on the topic of time, we have very little on this earth. I refuse to spend a goddamn second of it, worrying about you.

I hope that your poly relationship is doing very well, and that each night you lay your head to rest knowing you’re the happiest you’ve ever been. And hopefully you pick up a book, or a new hobby, or hell, even a stick of deodorant!

Anything to fill your days with something better to do.

Kisses.